Author J Roe

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Trigger Warnings, Mental Health, and Books OH MY!

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A great many of the readers and authors who connect with me tend to be highly sensitive. Probably because I am. And for those of you who are, you may feel like you’re walking on egg shells or wandering through a minefield whether you’re out of the house or clicking around your favorite online bookstore trying to find a safe place to unwind. If that’s you, I see you and in some ways we are very much kindred spirits. I have some resources that might make things a little easier and give you better tools to manage your mental health while finding your happy place.

While “triggers” sound like such a scary, unhealthy thing, we can use them to help us grow. By asking questions like “Why is this upsetting?” and “Do I need to work through something in relation to this reaction?” we can find ourselves in a healthier mindset. But if now is not the time to be working on things like that, then glance or click through what I have gathered here and you’ll be better prepared. I have also listed resources I’ve (or someone dear to me) found personally helpful at the end.

Please remember that I am NOT a licensed health professional and it is essential that you manage your own well-being. Please, please, please take care of you. You matter! Books are my safe place and I want my books to be that for you. If not, no worries! You can always come back later or find someone else to connect with. Take care!

Common Sense

I also appreciate the views of my diverse friends and readers who help me connect outside my own experiences. Many of you don’t look like me and I praise God we come from different places, different backgrounds, even different belief systems. It is a joy to learn more and reflect that in the stories I write. While I do extensive research into cultures and topics I was not born into or had first-hand contact with (because I want to tell the stories of a variety of people) I am imperfect. If I have in anyway misrepresented a culture or people group you love, please reach out anytime so the next book can be better and your voice can be heard. 

If you are also wanting to lend your views for future books, please reach out. Let me say it again, YOU MATTER! We need your perspective when you’re ready to share. Let’s see if there’s a good spot for you on the team. (because no book is written alone, it does take a team!)

Know Thyself–and Thine Own Mental Health Triggers

Every one of the following issues were not things that I set out to write about, but because I or people I love struggle with them. And so–surprise!–they come out in my stories. In said stories, things are not perfect by the ending, but there is some resolution by the end of each my books, and a happily-ever-after in any romance/romantic comedy I write.

Closed Door Heat level 2-3 as defined by The Writing Gals:

  • You can expect sweet to sizzling kisses in my books that include a romantic plot. There may be either a closed door or fade-to-black for married couples. No description beyond kissing.

Loss of parent and/or unresolved grief:

Childhood abuse (kidnapping, neglect, bullying, beatings, imprisonment)

  • Rapunzel’s Journey (each book has at least one character dealing with one of these, as do most well-known fairy tales. Nothing above “PG-13” violence described on page. See A Cheat Sheet for Fairy Tale Lovers for more insight into what fairy tales are covered.)
  • The Trials and Triumphs of Love — character has neglectful and narcissistic parents, she also as a family lawyer represents clients with difficult histories. Nothing on page.

Mental Health (depression, anxiety, PTSD, unresolved grief, substance abuse, suicidal ideation)

Chronic Illness

(Of course Chronic illness comes to the forefront since I have had my own since 1993.)

Faith elements

  • All of my books no matter what pen name I use 😉 Can’t seem to not write out my core faith in Jesus Christ as Savior and the inerrancy of scripture. Always happy to talk to you about the hope I have found in Him for my numerous issues in this broken world. You will also find Bible studies in the first three books in Rapunzel’s Journey.

Gaslighting (Deceitful Manipulation)

  • This is dangerous mental health concern that I have seen pushed to the side or over-dramatized. It is rampant in fairy tales, so you will find it in several place throughout Rapunzel’s Journey.
  • The Facts and Fictions of Love — A character is belittled for her effervescent personality by several older characters and believes the lie she is “too much.” This may seem extreme to call it “gaslighting,” but whether it was intentional or not, it impacted negatively what the character believed to be true about herself. I am sensitive to it and have found hope in the truth that Abuelita speaks over her: Psalm 139:14 and the beautiful quote by Frida Kahlo, “Escoge una persona que te mire como si quizás fueras magia or in English, “Choose a person who looks at you as if you were magic.”

Adultery/Cheating

  • High King has an (ongoing) affair that impacts the entire kingdom for most of Rapunzel’s Journey, but the affair is off the page. There are offspring that are at odds because of this in Upon the Throne.
  • The Design and Destiny of Love — There is a past affair that was not technically adultery or cheating, but it forever impacted the relationship. The affair, as indicated, is off the page.

Progress, Not Perfection

This is your permission, should you need it, to not be perfect as you figure out what you do or don’t need (even in books) at this time. Be you, because we need you. Not perfect you, just YOU you. If any of my books prompt any self-condemnation, just walk away. Guilt can help move us forward and inspire a little course correction as we take responsibility. It should never promote self-hatred or deep shame. One of my therapists helped me understand: guilt says I did something bad (and I can work on getting healthier as I make different choices from here on), but shame says I AM bad and have no hope.

Do something weird, be unconventional, find your own way. If it’s not morally wrong (and therefore not hurting anyone) discover what helps you function and thrive in each moment. And, hey, today’s thriving may look like surviving. And if so, that’s still absolutely worth celebrating!

Accepting where you are in this moment doesn’t mean you aren’t going to find an even better way tomorrow. I believe in you and am cheering you on!

Seek Help

If I have missed something, let me know. I will be adding to this over time during my publishing career. In case you are struggling with any suicidal ideation, please call 988 (in the US) or find another suicide helpline. As one who nearly lost her life to it, there is hope on the other side of getting help.

Other resources I’ve found amazing for me and my loved ones:

About the Quirky Author

A lover of faith and fantasy inspired fairy tale retellings and utterly obsessed with sweet romantic comedy books, JacQueline (aka Jackie Q.) enjoys telling stories, asking God hard questions, and laughing with her family and friends. She lives in North Alabama with her amazing karate husband and three book-crazy children. She takes every opportunity to drink coffee while wearing dangly earrings and the color purple.

*qualifying purchases will profit the author and her family with affiliate income to continue writing stories to delight more readers at no additional cost to you. 😉

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What Is Even Happening? (and all the silly updates)

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Umm . . . What Is Even Happening?

My three musketeers and I trade videos back and forth to keep updated on each other’s lives since we live so far apart. In doing so, these impromptu videos are full of all sorts of unscripted ridiculous moments. One bestie is constantly saying “What is even happening?” and she tries to describe in words what defies description. She often gives up and turns the camera around so that we can witness the insanity of the moment. We’re talking crazy cats, rogue turkeys, and snarky teens.

Well, I’m turning around the camera so that you, my loyal readers and true friends, can witness the insanity. For the truth is, I really don’t know what all is happening, but it is proving to be quite the ride. Buckle up!

Health, Wellness, and Moving Forward

In March of 2022 my mental and physical health was at an all time low. Migraines were debilitating to the point that again I could no longer leave my home. My weight had skyrocketed as I sought comfort in food, but food without real nutrition. Depression and anxiety were rampant and while trying a new medication, I almost committed suicide.

Had I lost my faith? No, but I was certainly struggling. Besties, family, and church members were praying. One tenacious friend reached out and made it possible for me to try a nutrition program that drastically changed my life for the better. I returned to life and became able to write again. Rapunzel’s Journey was even finished on time thanks to my amazing other bestie and editor-extraordinaire. Surprisingly, I even started helping and inspiring friends to reclaim their health, and this became an important avenue for my overall health.

While I’d love to report that I am no longer battling migraines or mental health issues, I am struggling again. Fortunately, I am surrounded by great support. I am doing what I can to weather this particular storm. I’ve had these kinds of battles in the past and eventually they do pass.

Despite the mental and financial struggle* for myself and my family, I have found inspiration. A whole new set of characters have shown up, but not the ones I thought I’d be writing. Let me tell you about the surprise that is breathing new life, and lots of chuckles, into my writing.

*for those interested in offering support, click here.

Wacky Jackie Q.

Once upon a time (yes, it has to start this way), a little girl named Jackie loved to laugh and play. She had a melancholy side, but was mostly a sanguine, talkative (some might say “yacky”) child. When she grew up, she left behind her nickname of Jackie and adopted the more mature sounding “JacQueline”, but the Q kept her fun and quirky.

So, you guessed it. My name is JacQueline and as JacQueline, I’ve loved writing the more melancholy Rapunzel with several quirky characters to keep things jolly. Even during more dramatic, and often romantic, moments. And perhaps that is the common thread here. There may or may not be magic in everything I write (whether as JacQueline or Jackie Q. or whatever pen name I may go to next) but there will always be some romance. Because who can live without love? (and isn’t love true magic?)

Crazy Fun in Texas

But, let’s be real, right alongside that romance is that quirky, ridiculous tendency I have. Like maybe I’ve tried to kiss my husband in an ultra-suave move, but accidentally (HOW???) tripped and practically fallen on my face. Trust me, things like this happen when I’m around. (Prayers for my husband’s safety appreciated.)

So, when I realized I couldn’t write the next fairytale retelling series, I was pretty bummed. Then, some super silly friends (all my characters are friends) came along to cheer me up. Because what could be better than being (by the magic of imagination) transported to a German-Mexican town in Texas? Yes, all kinds of silly started happening to create The Love and Laughter series. You should see the menu for Bachmann-Hernandez Restaurant. (Was I inspired by New Braunsfels, TX? Just maybe *wink*wink*). This all and not to mention the goofy little businesses around the town square–like the florist/funeral home. My brain is a silly space.

* Get your free teeny-tiny prequel/sneak peek into the goofy town of Levercusin (mispronounced Leave Ya’ Cousin) here.

Who is Running the Asylum?

Do I really know what is going on? Well, as of writing this, I’m over half-way through drafting The Design and Destiny of Love (UPDATE: it’s now finished and available!). I’ve also gotten a good start on what I hope will be a FREE prequel and some on book 2. With my health and finances as they are currently, I can’t make any guarantees about when these books will be coming your way. But I’m hopeful (take that, depression!) that The Design and Destiny will be published fall of 2024 with the sequel (UPDATE: available for pre-order now) soon to follow. But, who knows?

What I DO know:

  • God is good and my books will have a redemptive, if silly, arc
  • Quirky will win the day
  • Pain loses in the end

Finally, are you one of those amazing generous individuals who likes to support the arts and/or those struggling with their health? Please check out my Patreon and consider becoming a patron, if that aligns with your values. Thank you as always for your prayers, friendship, and support!

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FREE Books for Book Lovers Who Adore Fairytales

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“FREE books for book lovers who adore fairytales”–sound too good to be true? I know, you’re skeptical. But as an author who loves connecting with readers who love fairytales, I’m so excited to make this a reality. Read on if this has intrigued you and let’s get you those free books!

The Fairytale Ambassador Mission: Should you chose to accept it

My current series is almost complete and I have plans to write many more. While doing so, I want to raise up a team of dedicated readers that get the books early and for FREE. Those selected will go on to share honest reviews on places like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Goodreads, and Bookbub.

Dictionary.com defines an ambassador as: an authorized messenger or representative. In essence, when I send you your free copy of my upcoming release, I’m trusting you to let people know whether this is the kind of book they want to spend money on (or borrow in KU). Book lovers, like everyone, have restraints on their budgets and reading time. I want them to feel confident that when they read the review you leave, they’ll know if the book is just right for them.

How to Receive your FREE Books

Once accepted as an ambassador, I will make my ebooks free to you two weeks before publication. I’ll send you the ebook through Bookfunnel and the links where you can leave an honest review that includes the following sentence: “I received a free copy of this book from the author.”

When you have left your reviews, just send me a shout-out with the links so that I can “check off” that you have done your part to get the word out. This will ensure that you remain in good standing and receive the next book for free.

How do I get started?

In order to sign up, just click through to this application and I’ll let you know within 3 business days if you have been accepted. Make sure to provide an email address that you check regularly so you won’t miss a thing.

Once you are accepted, go ahead and click through to one (or several) of the titles below and start leaving honest reviews. They don’t have to be long or complex, no need to overthink it. Just your thoughts about the book or book(s) you choose to leave a review on.  Once you leave one review, just copy and paste to another online site—that works great and saves you time! 

Need a Little More Information?

I’m including links to each book on my website, as well as two posts that will help you decide if these books are a good fit for you and the cast of characters to refer to if you’re the kind of reviewer that likes help remembering such details. As I write the next series, I’ll include similar information for each one so that you can decide whether or not to continue to review my books.

Resources:

Books (in order):

FREE Books for Book Lovers Who Adore Fairytales

I am beyond thrilled to have you consider becoming a Fairytale Ambassador and want to thank you again for your interest in sharing what you think about my books. I look forward to serving you with books you will love to tell others about!

About JacQueline

As the author of  The Journey series, a young adult fantasy retelling Rapunzel’s misadventures, JacQueline also wrote Memoirs of a Headcase: Held by the God of Hope, to share hope in the battle against chronic pain and depression. Currently she lives in North Alabama with her karate husband and three book-crazy kids. All opinions expressed on this website come from her own experience. Do not substitute it for professional therapy or medical advice. Any affiliate links used on this website will provide additional income to JacQueline’s family at no additional cost to you.

If you are a reader wanting to connect with JacQueline, you can get a free book here. Each month you will receive book recommendations and other booknerd fun. 

Are you a writer or an author looking for help? JacQueline has been writing all her life and loves meeting others who think writing is living. As an author coach, helping other writers on their journey gives her joy. Schedule your free coaching call to learn what steps you should take next now.

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Do You Love Books More if You Read Fast or Slow?

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I feel like I keep coming across this strange guilt in the bookish community and it’s all related to the question, “Do you love books more if you read fast or slow?” The underlying theme is that only fast readers are truly living their best bookish lives now. But, how limiting is it to think that one pace is better than another without taking into account the many other factors that are in a reader’s life? I mean, it SOUNDS like having a life where all we do is read amazing books would be terrific, but that’s just not realistic (or actually living when you think about it!).

So I’m going to break down a few things that can contribute to living life well no matter how fast or slow or whatever your pace is for reading.

Taking a quick reading break while I write my next novel in Rapunzel’s Journey.

Are you a Fast Reader?

Did you know that there are people who read a book a day? I didn’t, not for a long time. Perhaps I had hints of it in the summertime when my bookish (read that: nerdy) friends and I would hole up to “recover” from the rigors of academia by getting lost among the pages of a fantasy world. And I realized that my friends were out-reading me. NOT that it was a competition or that I felt threatened or anything, but still. I remember wondering why I couldn’t read faster like them.

I had long thought of myself as a fast-reader because my mother, who was “slow” according to her own definition, always told me I was. And I thought kindly of myself in this area of my life, until I started comparing my own pace with my exceptional friends who could and did read faster. It didn’t completely steal the joy of my reading life, but I did squirm a little. Maybe I wasn’t the book nerd I thought I was.

Fast-forward to having a family of my own and living the life of a young mother, only able to read a chapter or two a day outside of my Bible reading. Taking my role as guardian and protector alongside my husband very seriously, I tried to read ahead of them. But my early readers were gifted students who had plenty of reading time. But that felt like an excuse to me. Maybe I was just a slow reader after all.

Being a Slow Reader

During this hectic season of my life, I tried to read to please others. I was reading nonfiction that my husband wanted to be able to discuss with me as he made his way through seminary. I was previewing and reading books that I was concerned might have mature content my early readers weren’t ready for yet. My reading life, once a refuge and cozy way to relax and unwind became a chore, another thing to finish up as quickly as possible so I could get to the next thing. Not surprisingly, my writing also suffered at this time.

My pace in reading slowed as my interest in the subject matter waned. But when I allowed myself to reach for books I wanted (I’m thankful for you, Hunger Games, for reigniting my love of reading) then the magic happened again. I won’t say that library due dates didn’t still stress me out, but when I realized that I could easily check out ebooks for extended lengths of time, I relished the books I was able to gobble up. I reclaimed my favorite way to unwind and also allowed myself time to think about the books I was reading. Because that is a huge part of the reading life for me. I can’t just read book after book after book unless I also take time to think about it {and usually find someone to discuss it with me}.

Reading in Different Seasons of Life

I’ve now had several stops and starts in this reading life. When the pandemic hit in 2020, my reading and writing life also took a hit and I realized that I am in fact a pretty moody reader. Making peace with that, and helping other readers make peace with that, has freed me up to enjoy lots of genres in lots of formats and at various paces. When I read romantic comedy, I generally read fast, often in a day or just a few days. When I read angsty ya fantasy, it will take at least a week, sometimes a month if I need more time to sit with the implications of the book. Historical fiction can be similar, but romantic suspense all depends on the pacing of the actual book.

I’ve found that for me reading several books at once is freeing. That way I can be making my way through a slower read that I can ponder while reading something lighter faster. I have different things I do while reading these books, sometimes I exercise while read an ebook, or I listen to an audiobook while cleaning, or read a hardback while taking a bath. If that makes me weird, it’s totally okay, I am having a great time with lots of books and usually not mixing them up. It works for me in the season of life I’m in right now.

Say “NO!” to undue Reader Guilt

Lately, I’ve talked to readers who feel the pressure to read faster and hurry up and conquer their TBR pile. I get it! We who love reading want to be able to get to the latest release everyone’s raving over. But it’s as though we’ve forgetten how privileged we are to have all these awesome books to get to in our own good time. We are missing out on our blessings. And I hate that.

As a writer, I’ve watched my readers practice wildly different paces with Rapunzel’s Journey. Some of the readers like to take my series fast, reading a book in one sitting. Others read a chapter or two a day, taking a month to read and think through each book. Neither one is right, neither is better than the other. I just love when they reach out to discuss what they love or struggled with in the stories.

That’s the kind of reading that benefits everyone. When you read at your own pace, content in your current season, counting your reading among your favorite blessings. You may watch your TBR pile diminish quickly or slowly, but you are making progress either way. I think we should all celebrate that. And it’s not the end of the world if you go a day without reading, I just probably won’t.

Loving Books and the Reading Life No Matter How Fast or Slow

So, what do you think? Do you love to read more if you’re fast or slow? Or do you think, like me, that there’s a flaw in that question. Some people are just fast people, and others of us are slower. We are still living and loving our lives, books in hand, smiles on our faces. Right?

If you are looking for free, short read, I’d love for you to download your copy of Before the Tower here and see if Rapunzel’s Journey is a series you would enjoy. The prequel tells of two sisters, one curse, and the betrayal that led to Rapunzel’s tower.

About JacQueline

As the author of  The Journey series, a young adult fantasy retelling Rapunzel’s misadventures, JacQueline also wrote Memoirs of a Headcase: Held by the God of Hope, to share hope in the battle against chronic pain and depression. Currently she lives in North Alabama with her karate husband and three book-crazy kids. All opinions expressed on this website come from her own experience. Do not substitute it for professional therapy or medical advice. Any affiliate links used on this website will provide additional income to JacQueline’s family at no additional cost to you.

If you are a reader wanting to connect with JacQueline, you can get a free book here. Each month you will receive book recommendations and other booknerd fun. 

Are you a writer or an author looking for help? JacQueline has been writing all her life and loves meeting others who think writing is living. As an author coach, helping other writers on their journey gives her joy. Schedule your free coaching call to learn what steps you should take next now.

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8 Frightening Books to Read this Halloween

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Though I used to not celebrate Halloween, I have found an odd acceptance with the holiday. I have discovered great joy in passing out candy, watching movies with my kids, and allowing myself the treat of a book that gives me chills. Not a fan of Stepen King, I prefer instead gothic horror and the sublime. So, if you are like me and looking for, oh, let’s say 8 frightening books to read this Halloween? Read on and I’ll also point you where to find them.

NOTE: Some links are affiliate, meaning I will receive a small commission with no additional charge to you.

Frightening Books to Read: Frankenstein

I have long wanted to read the story of Frankenstein, so when Smidgen Press hired me to write both the book description and the introduction to their gorgeous republication, I dove in, learning the backstory and preparing to be swept away by what some have called the original science fiction novel in the gothic horror style.

When Mary Shelley, deep in grief, was visiting with friends, Lord Byron made a challenge. Their odd group of gothic romantics living alternative and, for their time, scandalous lives, were dared to write chilling ghost stories.

By this point in history, Mary was acquainted with Luigi Galvini’s experimentation with the use of electricity on dead animals. She also knew of Galvini’s nephew’s reanimation of the body of an executed murderer. The inevitability of science going too far no longer seemed a leap of the imagination. 

The often depressed Mary might be likened to the obsessed Victor Frankenstein, the doctor she created for her story. While Dr. Frankenstein pieced together a new creation from several corpses, she stitched together the fearful news from the scientific front, envisioning a world where the creation makes a monster of its creator. See the full-size or adorable “pocket-size” available from Smidgen Press here.

Frightening Books to Read: Northanger Abbey

Northanger Abbey remains the only completed novel of Jane Austen’s that I have yet to read. When my sister bought me this lovely set of Jane Austen’s novels for Christmas, I was stunned. I KNEW this would be the year that I finally read Northanger Abbey. What’s more? I knew that October was the perfect month to do it in.

The story follows Catherine Moreland, a girl who has been spoiled by reading too many novels. When she visits love interest Henry Tilney’s family estate, she begins to try and unravel the mysteries she feels certain are there. I am looking forward to things that go bump in the night in this classic. And best of all will be Miss Austen’s satirical wit. Get this stunning clothbound edition with keys stitched on the cover here.

Frightening Books to Read: Jane Eyre

Jane Eyre is one of my all-time favorite classic books. Yes, it takes a little while to get into. Once Jane is off to Thornfield Hall, the stage is set for mystery with just enough horror and a bit of supernatural. The sound of madness cackling in laughter? The fear of being burnt alive in your bed? The nightmares that ominously point toward danger? All this and more totally kept me flipping through the pages. If I have time this October, I may pick it up again! Get this beautiful clothbound edition here.

Frightening Books to Read: House of Salt and Sorrows

Anyone who knows me should know that I adore a good fairy tale retelling. After all, as an author, that’s what I do! And a retelling based on both The Twelve Dancing Princesses AND Edgar Allen Poe’s The Raven? What could be more eerily perfect for Halloween? My only caution is this. I recommend this book for older adolescents. If not, then read with a trusted adult to navigate some of the darker and more mature themes.

Set in the fantasy world where Poseidon lives, you can almost taste the salt of tears and waves. As Annaleigh recounts the deaths of her mother and subsequent sisters, the grief is heavy. There were once twelve, but the creepy knowledge that someone is stealing these lives permeates the pages. Darkness hovers like a ghost looming just out-of-sight. Is Annaleigh in danger, or has grief driven her mad? Get it here.

Frightening Books to Read: The Hazel Wood (series)

Even darker than The House of Salt and Sorrows is my next frightening suggestion. Melissa Albert’s masterfully crafted Hazel Wood series is perfect for anyone who enjoys the darker, bone-chilling side of fairy tales and can tolerate profanity. Alice and her mother have lived their life together always moving. They are trying to keep one step ahead of something that is chasing them. But when her mother is taken, Alice finds only a note telling her to “STAY AWAY FROM THE HAZEL WOOD”. Only Alice and her new friend can discover the truth.

Be prepared to read the original duology in quick succession. The ending of The Hazel Wood needs the conclusion of The Night Country to bring solid resolution. I do not recommend these books to young readers as they have such a sharp edge and are moored in moral ambiguity that I believe requires some maturity to handle. But that is my personal opinion, and I leave the decision up to each family/reader to make. You can get them here.

Frightening Books to Read: Before the Tower and Beyond the Tower

At last, I would like to invite you to travel with Rapunzel for some chilling adventures. When I first began writing, I had no idea how many dark and twisty paths we would be traveling together. From the betrayal that led to her imprisonment, to meeting Bluebeard, and losing her way in the Dark Wood, Rapunzel’s Journey is set in a fantasy world at odds with magic and filled with secrets. Like all of the above books, the storytelling begins slowly. Be prepared for it to weave its spell over you until you NEED to know what’s behind the door or at the end of the path.

I recommend you grab these frightening books to read for FREE. You can get the prequel, Before the Tower, here or book 1, Beyond the Tower, here. Yep, for now you can discover a portal into Rapunzel’s World and start your journey alongside her. But I’m frightened (<–see what I did there?) that I won’t be able to offer them for free much longer. Jury’s still out, but for now they are both still free and I’ll just update this article if and when I have to change that.

Your Turn

So, like always at the end of one of my articles, I will now turn it over to you. I would love to hear which of these 8 frightening books to read for Halloween you are going to pick up–if any. And if, in fact you like straight-up horror and have a hard time with more classic titles or descriptive young adult fantasy, what books would YOU recommend for this creepy time of the year? Let me know in the comments, on Instagram (where I make silly reels about books), or by contacting me here if you’re a little shy. I LOVE talking books and would consider it an honor to hear from you!

If you need more book recommendations from me, I have a curated list here or you can head over to my bookshop here.

About JacQueline

As the author of  The Journey series, a young adult fantasy retelling Rapunzel’s misadventures, JacQueline also wrote Memoirs of a Headcase: Held by the God of Hope, to share hope in the battle against chronic pain and depression. Currently she lives in North Alabama with her karate husband and three book-crazy kids. All opinions expressed on this website come from her own experience. Do not substitute it for professional therapy or medical advice. Any affiliate links used on this website will provide additional income to JacQueline’s family at no additional cost to you.

If you are a reader wanting to connect with JacQueline, you can get a free book here. Each month you will receive book recommendations and other booknerd fun. 

Are you a writer or an author looking for help? JacQueline has been writing all her life and loves meeting others who think writing is living. As an author coach, helping other writers on their journey gives her joy. Schedule your free coaching call to learn what steps you should take next now.

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How can Books Connect You to Your Favorite People?

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At my house, we love books. When I say we love books, I mean we are reading constantly. Taking my kids to the library or the bookstore is a timed event. If it isn’t, we lose track of time completely and wonder hours later why we are grumpy and hungry. Might be because we missed a meal while trying to convince ourselves we can realistically read through fifty titles in the next two weeks.

So, yes, we might be a little obsessive about books. And you might be thinking that’s great for your imagination and some alone time . . . But, how can books connect you to your favorite people?

Beware Introverts, Reading can be Social!

Books and reading imply a solitary activity, right? Something you do by yourself, sitting on a couch with your feet tucked beneath you, a nice hot mug of something soothing at your side. It is the respite from being with other people, not having to come up with the right words to say. Right? Well, reading certainly can be that {and all the introverts breathed a sigh of relief}. But, it can also be something different. It can actually be the thing that brings your family or group of friends together. All you need is a little imagination and a good book.

Fandoms, Buddy Reads, Book Clubs, and Literary Societies

What can be more exciting than discovering commonality between two people? When readers connect over a beloved book, author, or make-believe world, it takes very little for that connection to become a fandom. The literary love dominates conversations and “what-if” questions crop up constantly. Pretty soon, you have best friends grabbing books at the same time to have their own buddy reads so they can discuss as they go. Or a larger group might choose a different book each month in order to really dig deep into what they did or didn’t like. Perhaps even better is the idea of a literary society where everyone is reading their own book and then meeting up to give a review and present their case for why everyone should read the book they just fell in love with. Persuasive arguments can get loud and silly at times, just adding to joy of it all.

Book Discussions on the Fly

In my family we have done ALL of the above. And in so doing, we are constantly discussing this or that book issue, problem, dream, whatever. Wouldn’t it be great if it were done in an organized manner with a thoughtful leader who can steer the group seamlessly from point A to point B to point C? Sure, and I bet there are people out there like that. But {spoiler alert} not only am I not like that, but my family is not like that. We are big mess and we hop from one thing to another as our thoughts and discussions collide with whatever events surround us. This means what we read helps us, or distracts us, from understanding the world and the people around us.

For example, our family comes from a more conservative background, but we read and discuss things that may not line up with our beliefs. We want to know other viewpoints so that we can educate ourselves and be considerate friends and neighbors to those who may not think like us or share the same values. This means my husband and I have to do a great deal of research and encourage our kids to as well. It’s uncomfortable at times and there have been occasions where we inadvertently exposed our kids to something we hadn’t anticipated. But because we were discussing things as we went, we walked alongside our kids and evaluated the opinions and decisions along the way.

Bookish Activities to Bring You Together

Another way to use books to connect with your favorite people is to actually engage in the activities that a book recommends. Love The Secret Garden? Why not create your very own garden together? It’s amazing the ways people open up when they are working outside together. Kids love Percy Jackson? Have a Percy Jackson day and play capture the flag and eat some blue food. You might be surprised as you ask your favorite people what they love about the stories that they start talking about Percy’s frustrations, anger, or fun sense of humor. For more fun ideas on how to create a Book Week, visit this blog for inspiration.

Use Books to Connect to Your Favorite People

So, next time you connect with a book, spend a moment and think about how to use that book to connect with one of your favorite people. As a friend, wife, and mother, I’ve discovered that books are more than just a wonderful way to relax alone. If you want to find out more about books that help in this way, head over to my complete list of book recommendations that can link you with some great reads. And if you are looking for a free one to start with, I’d love to send you mine if you click here. You’ll have the option of joining my monthly newsletter where I will continue to connect you with great book recommendations and bookish fun. As always, you can unsubscribe at any time, no hard feelings.

Now it’s your turn, how have you or will you use books to connect to your favorite people?

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About JacQueline

As the author of  The Journey series, a young adult fantasy retelling Rapunzel’s misadventures, JacQueline also wrote Memoirs of a Headcase: Held by the God of Hope, to share hope in the battle against chronic pain and depression. Currently she lives in North Alabama with her karate husband and three book-crazy kids. All opinions expressed on this website come from her own experience. Do not substitute it for professional therapy or medical advice. Any affiliate links used on this website will provide additional income to JacQueline’s family at no additional cost to you.

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